Arienne and Ben met years before they actually started dating, each of them in a relationship with someone else at the time. But when both became single and started spending time together, it wasn’t long before he invited her to a family gathering and the two became an official pair. Two years later, Ben got down on one knee, a dozen red roses in hand, and asked Arienne to be his wife. And on October 13, 2012, the couple were joined in a destination wedding in Naples, Florida, before eighty of their closest friends and relations. Desiring a tropical feel for the beach celebration, a color palette of lime green and fuchsia was used, taken from the beautifully exotic orchids used throughout the event. Following the serene waterside ceremony, the couple sneaked away for a photo shoot with Naples wedding photographer Tonya Malay, then proceeded inside the Ritz-Carlton Beach Resort to join their guests for an evening of dining and dancing!
Tell us how you met…
We met a few years before we actually dated. I was dating someone and so was he. I always thought he was cute, but it wasn’t the right timing. Eventually we both became single and started to hangout. Finally he asked me out at his cousin engagement party and the rest was history. We dated for a year, then myself and my 14 year pitbull Roxy moved in. After two years we got engaged November 29, 2011, then married October 13, 2012.
Now for the proposal… details!
We had just gotten home from Thanksgiving with Ben’s family in Florida and he was leaving in 3 days for to go back for a golf tournament, so he asked me to do lunch with him before he left that week. I came home to meet him after my Tuesday morning meetings, and his car was already there, then I went upstairs and the door was locked. I could hear him scramble around and was shaking the handle. Finally I unlocked the door, and Ben was on one knee holding a dozen roses and asked me to marry him. At first I didn’t see a ring, but then he walked me over to the counter and gave me one of his mother’s diamonds and told me we had an appointment to get it set in any setting I wished. It was amazing!
We want to know about all the wedding details, was it small and intimate or big and traditional?
Small and intimate.
Tell us about your wedding gown and what your bridal party wore.
My sisters were my bridesmaids, they wore whatever they wanted. My husband and his brother wore tan suits, with white shirts, no ties. The flower girls wore soft pink dresses and the ring bearers wore tan slacks, white shirts, blue blazers, and converse sneakers.
Can you give us an overview of the event?
It was a casual beach wedding with our closest friends and family.
Was there a specific theme or style?
Resort attire; jackets, no ties.
What were your playful twists that made the event unique?
Some of the twist included, flip flops with the date of the wedding imprinted on the sole. They were located at the top of the deck before our guest made their way to the beach. They checked their shoes and got flip flops. Our good friends played the violin for us during the ceremony. We had one good family friend marry us. Once the ceremony ended, we had a steel drum player play during cocktail hour. We had our guest sign large bottles of wine for us, that we served during dinner.
Did you DIY any of the details?
Not really, just the flip flops.
What was the most memorable moment?
Some of the most memorable moments were our niece and nephews walking down the aisle, and how they each had a role. The girls threw rose petals and the boys brought the rings down. Another memorable moment was walking down the aisle with my dad. I always dreamed of the moment, and he was so proud. Also dancing with my father to Paul Simon “Daughter.” And of course being married to each other. It was so great to know we married our best friend.
Tell us about the food and desserts.
The food was a simple salad and short rib. Followed by a dessert bar and wedding cake.
What kind of energy did your entertainment give the guests?
We had the “Brett Foreman Band.” It was music everyone could dance to. They were great.
If there was one thing you could change, what would it be?
Nothing, it was perfect! How can anything go wrong on your wedding day? It’s not about the food, or the decor, it’s about family, friends and becoming husband and wife. I really don’t understand how people can get upset about the little things.
What was the best wedding advice you received?
Stay in the boat. It may get rocky at times, but don’t jump.