For parents, a child’s wedding is one of the biggest and most emotional events of their lives. Naturally, many parents will want to be as involved as they can be. This can be stressful for the bride and groom to be, as they may struggle to find ways to balance their own wants and needs with keeping mom and dad happy. This need not be stressful, though. If your big day is coming up, and you are trying to find ways to make it special for your parents too, here are fifteen ways to do just that.
Ways to Keep Moms and Dads Happy
- Spend time with them.
Spending time with your parents during this busy season in your life is a big way to let them know that they matter and that they’re worth your time. It will mean a lot to them to know that in your packed schedule, you found time for them. Don’t overwhelm yourself, but make sure to schedule in a little time here or there for mom and dad.
- Let mom help shop for her mother of the bride/groom dress.
Shopping for mom’s dress is a way to spend quality time with mom during the planning of your wedding, and to make mom feel like her opinion matters. For both the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom, this can make for a great time together.
- Ask them for help.
This is a great way to let parents feel like they are helping their kids get through life, no matter how old their little ones get. Being involved in making sure that your wedding planning process goes smoothly is a way for mom and dad to feel like they’re part of your happiness.
- Thank them.
Moms and dads love to feel appreciated. Remember to thank them for the things they do to help you plan your wedding. It will make them feel great.
- Ask them about their wedding.
This is a way to let them relive good memories and also share their story with you. They’ll love remembering their special day and sharing a bit of mom and dad’s love story with their baby.
- Call them about accomplished milestones.
Whenever you accomplish a wedding-planning milestone, give mom and dad a call. This will let them know that you’re thinking about them. The fact that you felt that they were important enough to call will make them feel good.
- Plan activities that they can do together.
This is a time of romance, and planning activities that mom and dad can do together is a way to help them spend quality time together and deepen their love.
- Give them a project.
Knowing that they are helping lighten your load will delight mom and dad. In most cases they want to help, trust me. There’s no shame in letting them do what they are willing and eager to do anyway.
- Ask their advice.
This is a sure-fire way to make mom and dad feel valued. They may get a chuckle out of you finally wanting their opinion, and it will let them know that what they think and feel matters.
- Let them help plan the photographs.
Let them arrange the date, time, place, and photographer. This is a good way to get mom and dad involved. And it is likely that the more involved they feel, the happier they’ll be.
- Invite them to say a few words at the reception.
This will be a big deal to mom and dad. They’ll get to express just how much they love you and exactly how they feel about their baby getting married.
- Invite mom to dress appointments.
This is a great way to spend some girl time with mom just like she used to accompany you while you played with makeup sets in childhood. Invite her along to appointments as you get your dress fitted. You can chit chat and have fun looking at beautiful dresses
- Invite them to attend a cake testing.
Everybody wants an excuse to eat cake. Invite your parents along as you make appointments to try out different cakes. It’s a fun way to spend some time together.
- Ask for help sending invitations.
This is yet another way to let your parents share some of the to-do list. Let your parents tackle the task of sending out invitations, and this will be a win-win for everyone. Mom and dad will feel good because they helped out, and you’ll have some time freed up for other items on the agenda.
- Let them help with decorations.
It’s fun to be creative, and it feels good for mom and dad to have a part in important big-day decisions. Let mom and dad help out with décor to let them know that you want them to be part of your wedding.
Whether it’s giving them a call, letting them help pick out decorations, or simply saying thank you, there are plenty of ways to keep mom and dad feeling involved, thought of, and cared about during wedding planning. Try any one of these fifteen ideas to make your special day a special day for them too.
Sandra is the editor-in-chief of BestForTheKids.com, a comprehensive resource for parents helping with various kids’ needs, be it toys, essential products, or simply some parenting advice. She’s also a child psychologist and the mom of two exuberant kids.