Most of us don’t sit around posing for cameras, so when that time comes on the big day, things can feel pretty awkward or contrived because you just want these photos to be perfect! Well, fret no more. Below is five of the very best tips to have you feeling natural and fearless in front of the lens. I made sure to gather the most helpful and practical advice, from industry professionals, so you can worry less and dance more (yes, I said dance) for that camera!
Every single photographer gave this piece of advice: keep moving! How often do you stand still with your partner, just looking off into the distance with your hands cupped around their face? Uh, never. So why not have some fun? Ask your photographer if you can bring some music to dance to if you feel like it’d be awkward dancing to silence… they’d be all for it! Plus, dancing brings out the natural in you. If you’re feeling stiff, slow dance for a minute or two. Before you know it, you’ll be standing still, doing all the adorable things you’re used to: sweet little smiles, whispering “I love you” into each other’s ear, closing your eyes and embracing as you sway. Take our advice: keep moving together, not posing together.
2. As always, avoid copying Pinterest.
Recreating Pinterest poses isn’t helpful to you, your man, OR your photographer. “Let your photographer be creative and direct you,” says Rob Futrell of Photos by Rob Futrell. While it’s good for inspiration, it might not actually be that natural for you as a couple! Part of your photographer’s job is to direct you, but also get you into a comfortable rhythm with each other. “It’s not about the poses, it’s about being in love, just in front of a lens.” Simple, right? Maybe not. But please do yourself a favor and avoid bringing Pinterest ideas to the set. And if you have to throw in a pose or two that you saw and loved, then practice it at home in the mirror before you try it for the first time in front of a photographer and their assistant. It’ll make you feel confident instead of embarrassed that you couldn’t execute exactly what you pinned.
3. Communication Is Key.
If you’re about to get married, you know this one really is the key: intentional communication. The same goes when you’re forming a relationship with your photographer. Every photographer wants to get to know their bride and groom (and for a lot of them, that’s why they’re in the business: to know people and to share their love story). “When our clients become our friends, that’s where my heart swells. We love genuinely connecting with our clients – that’s our heart,” says Tiffany Tolmen of Hunter Ryan Photography. I don’t know a single photographer who would turn down a coffee date! Don’t be afraid to meet up once or twice to share stories, to get to know each other and to grow that line of communication. It’s the most important thing you can do to assure having a fun time come wedding day! The better of friends you are, the more comfortable you are around one another, which takes so much of the unnecessary pressure away!
4. Focus On Your Love, Not The Lens.
Think of photographers more as storytellers rather than people behind scary cameras. Remember that this is one of the happiest, most love-filled days of your life. You showed up for your groom or your bride-to-be; to vow, to kiss, to dance, to start a new chapter of life. Let your joy exude over the whole day, to your best friends, family members, and most importantly, to the person you’re vowing to love the rest of your life. The only job you have, is so show up with that radiant smile and let go of all the worry. Everything that needs to be captured, will be. Savor the romance, soak up all the special little moments that you can. You planned for this day for a year, most likely, so why not hand over this wedding day to the professionals that know how to truly catch it on camera. It’ll make for the best pictures ever.
5. Trust Your Photographer
Wedding photographers are a different breed. They come with hairspray and tissues and all sorts of tricks up their sleeves. And guess what? They really care about you! Professional photographers show up on time (or early!), and put in the time it takes to capture every detail. They keep you laughing and smiling and even wipe your tears. They’re passionate about love stories, ambitious with their craft, and extremely dedicated to their work – both on the big day and after it. Trust is what pulls everything together. If there’s one gift that you can give your photographer, it’s trust. Trust allows both parties to function in a healthy way, and allows both the client and photographer to focus on each of their duties for the day; bride and groom: being madly in love, photographers: capturing every ounce of it.