As your wedding day draws near, you will inevitably be asked if you would like a bridal shower thrown in your honor prior to the big day. Along with what type of shower you want (kitchen, around the clock, Christmas, as well as just women or a couple’s shower) you will also be asked for a guest list.
Dun, dun, dun.
Please don’t break out in a cold sweat – this guide will help you along the way. Bridal showers are much more intimate setting than your wedding day and should be reserved for those people you are close with OR that your fiancé is close with (‘cause let’s be honest, if he is close with them – you will be too, eventually).
First, take out your wedding guest list; whomever gets invited to your showers should be invited to the wedding as well. Without a doubt, the people that should be invited to each and every one of your celebrations are your mom and your besties (Bridesmaids) as well as your groom’s mom. And realize that although I am sure all of them want to be at all of these soirées, not all of them will be able to attend every single one.
Next, be sure to include your close families. Favorite aunts, cousins, his sisters… These women will remain in your lives for a very long time. It’s nice to make them feel included in the days leading up to. Family Christmases will be less awkward.
This group is maybe a necessary evil to some brides, but none-the-less, necessary. Your mother’s close friends should be invited (if they aren’t actually hosting) as well as his mother’s close friends. You know the ones, they are the ones that love to talk about what you were like as toddler and wondered if your knight in shining armor would ever come along. The upside to these guests, they usually get you the more expensive gifts on your registry too.
Another group that gets overlooked a lot, are your groom’s friends wives and/or girlfriends. I totally understand not wanting to invite the fly-by-night, stand in, plus one girlfriend – but wives of his close friends are a great way to get to know more about your man and help build friendships that make Supper Club much more enjoyable!!
Finally, co-workers. This can be tricky, but for showers, I suggest you stick to people that you are very close with. A good gauge would be, if you quit tomorrow – who would you keep in-touch with. Those are friends – NOT co-workers. And I have found that most work places will host a shower in your honor too, so if that’s the plan – side step this group all together and wait to celebrate with everyone.
Armed with this advice you will be able to devise a guest list that will parlay into a great party. You want a great mixture of ages and some of the women from his camp as well. So, happy wedding planning and remember whomever you chose to invite, make sure you remain a gracious bride.
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