Ah, the guest list. It’s one of the first organized steps in the wedding planning process. Also, one of the most edited. The guest list sees more cuts and pastes than a scrapbooker’s craft room. But when narrowing down who will receive an invitation to the most important day ever, it’s a good idea to visualize the night in living, loving color. Is this a social affair fit for an ocean of people, a mix of family and acquaintances and acquaintances’ acquaintances? Or quaint and cozy, small enough that each person in attendance has some significant place in the life of the bride or the groom? While there is certainly nothing wrong with either scenario, there are positives to be found in keeping the guest list short.
1. Control costs. This one may seem kind of obvious, but it doesn’t take long for most brides to find that weddings tend to be a little more on the expensive side. Most of these costs arrive from volume. Per person prices are unavoidable… but you do have control over the guest list.
2. Intimacy . . . have a chance to talk to each and every guest. There’s no greater whirlwind than your wedding day. Seriously, it’s like a beautiful, magical carrousel of happiness . . . and it just whooshes by in the blink of an eye. Chances are, the higher the guest count, the less likely the bride and groom will be able to speak with each of their guests, let alone fellowship with them. Weddings are all about the connection, the love, the feels. It’s awesome when each and every guest can feel the love.
3. Exclusivity . . . . the guests there feel extra special, and you’ll be feeling the love, too. The smaller the guest list, the more exclusive the affair will appear to be. Now this idea can be construed multiple ways, but let’s suffice it to say, those who receive an invitation will feel honored you thought of them, and per the last tip, you’ll be more likely to personally tell them you’re glad they came.
4. Opportunity for a more unique venue: you have more options when you’re not trying to accommodate hundreds of people. Wedding venues are as diverse as brides themselves, all of them beautiful, all of them sought after . . . but not all of them crowd friendly. Some of the most breathtaking venues, the most exotic terrains, the most unforgettable vistas . . . well, they’re just more suited to smaller, more intimate gatherings. And that’s just how we like it.
5. Keeps the focus on where it belongs . . . the love story. There’s nothing worse than when a bride’s attention is swallowed up by the extravagance of her own party. Parties are a dime a dozen. Weddings are once in a lifetime. Don’t trade in your spotlight in favor of the guest list games. It’s hard enough for the bride and groom to rise above the tide and focus on the romance in the midst of big day craziness. A small, cozy affair makes securing the romance totally possible. Happily ever after is what it’s all about, after all.
Photos courtesy of Kristin Faye Photography
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