As a wedding professional, I’ve encountered so many grooms who are willing and even eager to help. But, there are equally as many, if not more, who would rather just wait until the cake tasting to lend a hand with wedding planning. While planning my own wedding this year, I shared 4 Fiancé-Friendly Wedding Planning To Do’s. Now that we’ve said “I do,” here are some tips from my own wedding on how to get your groom involved.
My husband enjoyed working on our reception playlist, selecting and even personalizing our first dance song and the mother-son dance song. If you’re having a band, ask them if you can tailor the lyrics to make them a better fit for these special dances. For example, my husband changed the words to “The Best Day” by Taylor Swift to say: I have an excellent [mother]. [Her] strength is making me stronger.
Bonus tip: this is also a great way to get the mother of the groom involved!
Personalized Groomsmen Gifts
Allow your groom to get creative with gifts for the groomsmen. Most men probably don’t know what’s available, and even trendy, today. Show him some custom options on Pinterest and Etsy to get him thinking of what his guys might like. Some of our favorite items include cigars paired with engraved engine turned lighters, a can of Coke paired with a Jack Daniels mini and monogramed whiskey glass, or cufflinks adorned with each groomsmen’s favorite team logo. He’ll enjoy picking just the right gift for his friends to thank them for being a part of your special day.
Registry Items He’ll Enjoy Too
While not necessarily a part of planning for your wedding day, registering for wedding gifts can be (at least in my experience) one of the more stressful wedding to do’s. What do you register for when you’ve lived on your own or together, or already have all the necessities you can think of? Hand him the registry gun and let him have at it! Let him pick out some items he’ll actually enjoy too. Maybe he’s had his eye on that fancy grill, he needs a new tool chest, or he simply wants a new gadget. New bath towels are only exciting to a certain degree, so let him have a hand in choosing some registry items.
Brainstorm Groom-Friendly Décor Options
Think outside of the (ice)box for décor options. How cool would a beer-filled canoe be? Maybe he can’t get excited about picking out centerpieces, but he loves outdoor activities. Enlist his help in finding groom-friendly alternatives based on what he loves – wheelbarrows, tractors, an old boat or something he can build himself. My husband enjoyed helping brainstorm alternative cake stands, and as a result, we came up with a creative and fun hanging cake table.
Bottom line – every groom is different. Let him participate how and when he wants to, but don’t force it. You want the wedding planning experience to be as easy and stress-free as possible!
Photos by Kelly Anne Photography